I need some help determining how I can see my kids.
Q) I need some help determining how I can see my kids. It’s been a couple of years since I have, but I never stopped paying child support. Every time I email my children’s mother, she is always picking a fight and makes it impossible to communicate with her. I don’t know/didn’t know much about how child support works but, I never cared about paying for it since it’s for my 2 boys. When I separated from Cierra (the boy’s mother) she moved to a different state to pursue her future and I didn’t know how to handle it or what to do. I didn’t want to stop her from doing her life but, I need to see the boys and I just need help on what I’m doing wrong and how to fix it because I know I’m not the victim.
A) I’m sorry to hear that you’re having difficulty seeing your children. It sounds like there are a few different issues at play here, including communication problems with the boys’ mother and concerns about your ability to see your children.
There are a few things you can try to address these issues:
- Consider seeking the help of a mediator or therapist. A neutral third party can often help facilitate communication between you and the boys’ mother and find ways to resolve conflicts and improve your relationship.
- Look into your state’s laws regarding parenting time and child custody. Each state has its own laws governing these issues, and understanding your rights and responsibilities can help you navigate the situation more effectively.
- Try to find common ground with the boys’ mother. While it may be difficult, it’s important to try to find ways to cooperate and find solutions that work for both of you. This could include coming up with a schedule for visits or finding ways to stay connected with the children through phone calls, video chats, or other means.
- Consider seeking legal assistance. If you are unable to come to an agreement with the boys’ mother and you feel that your rights as a parent are being violated, you may want to consider seeking the help of an attorney or contacting a local legal aid organization for guidance.
It’s important to remember that your children’s well-being should be the top priority. While it may be frustrating or difficult at times, try to stay focused on finding solutions that are in the best interests of your children.