How can I sue my ex-husband, for collecting $27,000 while not let me see my 2 daughters?

Q) I understand that support and visitation are not connected. But what recourse do I have as a fit mother, making minimum wage or less, to sue my ex-husband, father, custodial parent, for collecting $27,000 from me over the past 10 years, yet refuses still to let me see or speak to my 2 daughters once in this whole time?????? Ive been to family court numerous times on this and never get anywhere. My kids already think I abandoned them, how can I at least have payments sent directly to them? ages 15 and 16 now… 🙁 cannot ever afford lawyer because of these “mistakes” of child support, has ruined my life, not the payment for my kids, but the family court system when you can’t afford a lawyer in 10 years because they were taking $300 a week from my $400 paychecks. New york state. can I ever get it back?? Id really appreciate advice on this.

A) I’m sorry to hear about your difficult situation. It sounds like you are facing multiple challenges, including financial difficulties, lack of access to your children, and frustration with the family court system.

In New York State, child support and visitation are separate issues. A parent who owes child support cannot be denied visitation with their children, and vice versa. However, if one parent is withholding visitation rights, the other parent can file a petition with the court to enforce their visitation rights.

It is also possible to request that child support payments be sent directly to your children, rather than to the custodial parent. This can be done through the New York State Child Support Enforcement Unit (CSEU).

Regarding the issue of the $27,000 that your ex-husband has collected from you, but you have been unable to see your children, it is advisable to seek legal counsel to explore your options. Some legal aid organizations provide free or low-cost legal services to individuals who cannot afford a private attorney.

Additionally, you may want to consider filing a complaint with the New York State Office of Child Support Enforcement (OCSE). They can investigate complaints related to child support and provide assistance in recovering unpaid child support.

I understand that this is a challenging situation, but it is important to seek out resources and support to address these issues. I hope this information is helpful, and I wish you the best of luck.